This blog is positive.

This blog is body positive, gender positive, and sexuality positive.

There is nobody whose body does not belong on these pages. However, we still have submission guidelines; please read before submitting.

This is a celebration of self-love. All bodies are beautiful, amazing things and they contain beautiful, amazing people.

It should go without saying, but this is not a porn blog. These images are not sexual. If you can't comprehend that, you do not belong here.

Do not disrespect the people who have shared these pictures by misusing them.

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What makes me so happy about this is that she isn’t telling you you must love your body or that you are obligated to. She saying you have permission to. And that’s important, because there are a lot of reasons why people have trouble with self-love.  But the idea that you aren’t supposed to love your body, that you aren’t allowed to for whatever reason, needs to be crushed. If you can’t love you body right now, if your body causes you pain or disphoria or distress, you aren’t required to love it. But you are ALLOWED to. You are entitled to the chance to make peace with your body, if you ever reach a point where you are ready to. No one else should be trying to stop you.

Sometimes I see or read things, and I didn’t realize that I needed them until they are two GIFs of Nicki Minaj and some amazing commentary that come across my dash and I instantly burst in to tears and feel a weight lifted off my chest.

(Source: beyxnika)


The sun you’re greeting this morning is in Virgo. Treat her kind and you’ll be warm for life.


"Good Fatty" vs "Bad Fatty"

an exploration of behaviour and the policing of women’s agency

photographer: Isabel Dresler
model: Kitty Stryker

In this I wanted to explore what constitutes “good fatty” behaviour vs “bad fatty” behaviour. I’ve had my grocery choices policed, been asked if I’m hurting the reputation of other plus size people by eating ice cream in public, and had strangers offer me diet tips when I was waiting in line. I’ve been sneered at for wearing tight clothes and been tsked for being happily sexual. As someone who only saw my body made sexualized in feeder porn, I wanted to confront the idea that being fat and sexy was shameful/ugly, rather wanting to depict shame as performed for the thin-striving gaze to earn approval. The “good fatty” is the fatty who exercises, who eats well, who hides her body. I’m a bad fatty, all the way, and I don’t give a fuck. 


I think my face has a sort of sensationalizing effect on my pictures, and that’s okay usually because I love my face and it’s great. But I wanted to take some pictures without it because I want other fat and/or black people to relate. The “pretty face” fat thing is still a large issue within the body positive community.

Beautiful-faced fat people are so important, but our revered presence tends to alienate those who feel they don’t make the face cut. The same applies to fat people with medium to smaller bodies on the spectrum, and I realize that that’s where I fit in these days. I don’t deny that privilege that I have, but I hope people larger than me still see some features they can relate to. Not to mention, when we do see very personal pictures of nude fat bodies, they’re overwhelmingly white.

Anyway, I saw a post involving feelingswithbrandy and pardonmewhileipanic that spoke on an issue about representation of fat-related features on bodies that people feel they alone have because they don’t see it documented frequently, if ever, in the body and fat positive community.

It got me thinking that I wanted to show myself to other fat and/or black people in hopes that they can relate. I usually wear clothes because I like style, but I wanted to serve a slightly different purpose. So here’s a series of pictures of my body with some large deposits of back fat and some visible deposits of side/under boob fat or whatever it is. I cropped out my butt because too many fetish-having asshats lurk, and I’m sure they’ll still get to these but at least not all of me.


My favorite performance I’ve ever done. A reflection on my life spent being taught to hate my body for being too big and imperfect, and having to change those feelings over the past five months of being pregnant and my body serving a different purpose. Performed to Pretty Hurts by Beyonce. I am so grateful to have a platform to explore these feelings, to get up in front of people and dance and cry and have them cry with me.

President Chester Arthur for polylust Burlesque
Photos by the magnificent Alex Sushil